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Monday, August 08, 2005

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A recent outing wit naz, afad, epul n kahar got us talking about relationship stuffs... a hot topic that was discussed between with each of us having some pretty different opinions on it... at the end of it all, we decided to post something about it in each of our individual blogs and see how good we r able to debate about it in words.. the topic;- JEALOUSY

It would have been a lie if i said i am not jealous when u r out with other guys... it would have been a total lie if i said i am not jealous when ur ex boo/crush calls you back... it would have been a lie if i said i am not jealous like at all when anything you do is against the love i have for you...

Jealousy is something that i believe is in everyone... if u say u are not jealous.. then i will tell u this... BULLSHIT!

Personally, i am a person who gets easily jealous... however, i have difficulty showing it.. i guess its ego... you say you wanna go out with some tom, dick or harry.. and my reply would come easily as... "oh ok... just take care"... but behind all those words lies a lot of hidden feelings... feelings like... why must u go out with him?? is it necessary?? why dont go out with me instead?? why?? why?? why???

but again.. my reason for not showing these feelings are pretty simple... i dont want you to think that i dont trust you... coz im the sort who would give someone that amount of trust when i love a person... but yet again... its just fear... fear of losing you...

what if meeting up with that person would make you change your love totally... what if your ex boo calls u back and wants u back and his sweet words made u fall... what if... i just wake up and realise you are snatched away by someone else... shit happens.. and these shits happened before in my life....

yet again... i dont want to be telling you, "NO!"... no.. you cant go out with him... no you cant do this.. no you cant do that... that would have been possesive... i am not a possesive type of person in the first place... and being possesive itself could also make me lose you... not unless you are those kind who like a being controlled and a possesive partner... personally, i would suffocate given that kind of partner....

this is just too complex... relationship itself is a complex thing... and discussing it would never come to an end... there are just too many points to cover and from such different angles...

to make discussion less complex about a relationship i guess we would have to start with sincerity and loyalty... both parties have to remain sincere and loyal to make things work... somehow or rather... these have to be instilled into the minds of both parties... with these two factors... everything just comes into place.... a certain amount of trust starts to build knowing that the other is loyal to u and only u... fear starts to depreciate... and being possesive is totally unnecesary... and jealousy?? what is there to be jealous about??
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he' blogs @ 11:36 PM

5 Comments:

hehehe... a complex topic to be discussing about indeed. well, as least, after reading it again and again, it makes sense to me. :)

for now, all i can say is i would certainly agree with those written words in ur entry. however, there are other points i would add based on my own experience which had taught me alot about relationships. those experiences had made me a more consciencious person when it comes to building a relationship with a man. but i believe every individual is a unique whereby each of us go thru different form of life and therefore, taught us different lessons in any aspects of life. ;)

By  Anonymous, at August 09, 2005 1:13 PM  

I believe we got the same sentiments. Trust and loyalty is the utmost importance in a relationship. lying is inevitable but U have to avoid for the other partner to trust you.

By  Anonymous, at August 10, 2005 8:32 AM  

i agree with you and najie, and i also agree with rina.

actually, no matter how, you can't really trust anybody 100%, it's just human nature to use and abuse. Jealousy to me is just a feeling of insecurity and of course, it's pretty normal. with past experiences i have come to understand why people react a certain way, and with understanding, there is acceptance... like the other day, we were chatting about people behaving a certain way and having their partner understanding their attitude and shitnits like that just because they are made that way.. personally i dun take that as an act of love, it's just pure stupidity.

if lying is inevitable, shouldn't we make do the same with practicing truth? no matter how bad it hurts at first, you'll earn that trust with each other that will definitely bring the meaning "loyalty and love" to another different level, and then we can throw that question:

"what is there to be jealous about?"

*wink*

By  Anonymous, at August 10, 2005 4:03 PM  

but yet again... all these are interlinked with each other... all these emotions starts coming in and dats just because we are in love... aint dat so??

however, remaining sincere and loyal to your partner do have a big impact in a relationship... once that is broken.. regaining everything that u once with your partner would be difficult...

u would have to start from even way below than the bottom to regain that trust ur partner once had for you...

just too complex... way too complex....

By  Anonymous, at August 10, 2005 6:01 PM  

tell me about it.
heh.

By  Anonymous, at August 10, 2005 11:50 PM  

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