a recent conversation with a total stranger took me by surprise... was not trying to be rude.. but was just trying to create a conversation... but it all went wrong..
let me first give a brief view of the whole situation...
was on my normal foot patrolling at orchard rd during the wee hours of the morning... from far.. i spotted a couple and another person sitting ahead of me... as my partner and myself approached... the couple left... as usual.. it sparked off questions as to why the couple left in a hurry upon seeing us... decided to make a check...
managed to stop the couple...
but what i would refer to in this entry had nothing to do wit the couple... it was the lonely man sitting alone...
i decided to approach him instead whereas my partner went over to the couple...
the initial conversation... i felt there was some kind of hatred in him.. but could not figure out what it was... he was all "slangy" with his language... and i decided to ask him the next question.. which proved to be the point of disaster.. the point where i started to get pissed with him...
"Are you local?"
"Why? Do I look Malaysian to you?? and yeah.. I am Singaporean!"
"Sir, Im just trying to make a conversation here..."
"Yeah... and im trying not to answer to your question!"
you might take it as a joke.. but seriously it isnt... he wasnt smiling... nor was he keen to answer the questions that i asked...
it didnt stop there.. our conversation started to get real nasty.. and every bit i felt pissed looking at the way he answers to my questions.. but i managed to maintain my cool.. i wasnt going to give in to him and appear angry if that was what he was trying to do to me...
so from the conversation.. i learnt that he was an ex police officer... so dat explains why he knew quite a lot about what he can or cannot do during the conversation...
so here's my analysis... he was going thru a tough time in life and me making a check on him was not improving things at all.. but what i dont understand.. why him... lets take things as general.. why do people show their negativity whenever things take a downfall in their life...
why dont we be positive??
it was clear that he took everything in his life at this current point of time as negative.. he no longer sees things as wonderful... every little thing to him is at his disadvantage... seriously i pity these kind of people.. and i meant it sarcastically...
there are others out there with bigger problems.. and yet they took it well.. it just proves one thing.. they are strong... strong enough to face these downfalls...
lets take a good example.. my own aunt.. a housewife... her husband is currently in ICU... she's left to take care of her four schooling children... according to the doc he would be half paralysed...
and my recent visit to the hospital.. she was smiling.. she was laughing.. she held interesting conversations with people... but i swear... her eyes gave it away when i talked to her... she was definitely hiding her sadness and fear... but she was strong... she didnt want to show to people the worries shes having and the sadness in her...
but what about my other aunts and my grandma?? they showed the exact opposite of the aunt in question... a small talk about my uncle caused them to be in tears... at a certain point of time.. i was pissed with my own grandma.. she talked like as if it was the end.. she kept on saying.. what if he goes away....
why these negativity....???
shouldnt we be showing support instead... negativities will bring down the hopes of the other party....
well of coz... i gave a good piece of my mind to my grandma for giving such remarks... if she wants my aunt to be strong.. shouldnt we, the people behind her supporting, be even stronger???
i think i got my message across.. my grandma started smiling soon after...
so bottom line.. i think as individuals.. we should be strong enough to face all challenges and problems... showing our weakness and fears would bring the morale down.. and of coz.. it doesnt improve anything to the whole situation at all.... 0 comments
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